usually I do it with a group of friends, we have this like mini trust circle square/trapezoid and we all share what we have done or what we are curious about or what we want to try, usually we get lots of laughs and awkwardness from it!
Do you talk about sex?
If so, with whom? If not, why?
I tend to do a lot of listening. My friends will talk about their sex lives, desires, experiences in great detail. We all laugh about it, listen and encourage each other. I’m fortunate to have a healthy environment to talk about my own experiences (or lack thereof)… but something still stops me from sharing.
I believe it is because I have spent so long shrinking the importance of my sexuality. Even though I have a safe environment, I don’t speak much. Maybe the first step is simply knowing that you want to heal and own that part of yourself?
Really relevant question. Any answers/thoughts/feelings?
TW: rape, sexual assault
Have you ever woken up in a place you did not know, next to a person you couldn’t remember going to bed with? Have you ever only remembered snippets of an evening out or not remembered anything at all? Inspired by events in our own personal lives, we wanted to make a video about being under the influence and engaging in sexual activity.
So, what happens after you blackout from a night of being under the influence? What do you do in that moment where your memory escapes you and you are left wondering what, where and who you’re body has been in contact with?
First, consider if there was consent.
Yes there was? Then as soon possible:
To find your local clinic, click here. (US)
If applicable - use emergency contraception!
If you feel safe and comfortable, communicate with your partner(s) about what occurred.
If not, that is perfectly alright, take that energy and focus it on making sure you’re okay.
No, there wasn’t consent?
It’s not your fault. Your feelings are valid. Your experience is real. There are people who can help you through this confusing and emotionally distressing time.
If you’re a college student, contact your schools counselor service or find a local counseling center near you.
Other important resources that might be helpful:
Planned Parenthood: Here you will find information on STD Testing, Emergency contraception and they even have a live chat available if you want to speak with someone confidentially.
The effects of any undesirable sexual experience can effect someone far deeper than the physical. Click the link to learn more.
Some research on the relationship between drinking and having sex.
This is an ongoing dialogue. What are your thoughts on our list? How can we make it stronger? How can sex educators discuss sex and being under the influence in a comprehensive, relatable and inclusive way? Do you have anything you would like to add, share or contribute? Let us know in our ask box or submit your story here.
Sex tips/facts learned from magazines. Anyone?
Just hit play. Thank us later.
Go for the male strippers, stay for the comedy and the coming of age story.*
*To best experience this review, please play Ginuwine’s “Pony” while reading.
I had no intention on seeing this movie, expecially not on opening day. But fate (and my friend buying my ticket) lead me to the third row of a packed theater in Burbank. Things I noticed:
This brought up some questions:
Although this movie would be easy to judge, it was put together very well. It was a fun movie with great performances by all, but especially Channing Tatum. It takes a brave person to put yourself out there like that. It was a pleasure to watch him in full acceptance of his past… it was a lesson in self-actualization that I did not expect to take away from a “male stripper flick”.
I recommend seeing this movie. It’s not a MUST see, if you want to wait for DVD. But, SPOILER ALERT: there are a lot of incredible abdominals. What? A girl can admire a beautiful physique. ;)
Let us know what you think! Are you going to see Magic Mike? Have you seen it? Any Comments?
I was first taught about condoms in year 9, so when i was about 13/14, but my first experience of using a condom (unlike most students who have the opportunity to attempt at putting one on a banana or something in school) was when I first had intercourse.
The reason is because I did triple science in school instead of double science like the majority of pupils, so we missed our sex-ed lessons for science lessons.
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This is where I could make a good wand joke… but I won’t. ;)
I had a very similar experience. My mom is a pediatrician and we had access to all sorts of educational material but was left to connect the dots myself.
Long ago when i was wee, there was a computer game called leisure suit larry. i know that it still exists, but i’m talking about the original one where you would type “look car” to look at the car or “look boobs” to get a message about how you shouldn’t just stare at people’s boobs.
Early in the game, you have to go to the store and buy condoms. but you have to write “prophylactics”. you can’t write rubbers, or condoms or jimmy hats. you also couldn’t get any further in the game unless you bought them.
So i was 9 or 10. this was probably not the first time i learned about condoms. i think we were already well into the aids crisis by then, and i watched a lot of tv! so i’m not sure about how i heard about condoms, but this is definitely how i learned to spell prophylactic.
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